Ask Baba Yaga: Is It Possible To Truly Love My Partner If I Know I Could Do Better?

Dear Baba Yaga,

Is it possible to truly love my partner if I know I could do better? Is it wrong to be with someone you think is wonderful if you believe you could be with someone better?


You pat this creature on the head ; you bring him meats ; you sleep alongside him. But yr eye is always askance, you peer outside the cave for another. Such is how it is: you tend to this one but you don’t bring him the glowing orb of yr whole love. This you reserve for another. And every creature, no matter how dull & lacking, feels this when it is so.

Previously: How Can I Trust My Body Again?

Taisia Kitaiskaia is a poet and writer living in Austin. She’s taking questions on behalf of Baba Yaga at askbabayaga [at]

Illustration of Baba Yaga’s hut by Katy Horan.