Ask Baba Yaga: How Can I Be Happy For My Ex?

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Transcript after the jump.

Dear Baba Yaga,

My ex and I were together 4.5 years before I broke up with him. Even though he loved me and was good to me, I have never been happier about myself and my life until we split up. So why did I get so angry when I found out that he’s been dating someone new? And how can I stop feeling this way and be happy for him?


You feel he is the cub you helped raise, & his fur you love even as you don’t wish it near you. ; So when he goes out yonder to eat his fill you anger that he can wander so easily & find what he seeks without you. ) Stare into the black puddle where he left his paw print, stare & mourn a little, let yr grieving mix with that abandoned water & drink it all down, the loss of him & the loss of you, too, a little, for he raised you also.

Previously: How Can I Create Stability?

Taisia Kitaiskaia is a poet, writer, and Michener Center for Writers fellow. She’s taking questions on behalf of Baba Yaga at